tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post2321130216287793322..comments2023-04-13T02:27:19.699-07:00Comments on A Woman My Age: Bitter aftertasteDeathstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03925549983959400448noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-62735397134033182682010-08-28T20:38:44.213-07:002010-08-28T20:38:44.213-07:00The financial side is what I struggle the most wit...The financial side is what I struggle the most with; my honey and I aren't struggling, but we also don't have $100k laying around for IVF or adoption. Hopefully we won't have to cross those bridges, but it makes me so angry that we'll likely have to incur those debts when so many jackasses have babies every day.eemillahttp://eemilla.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-30306456323429449302008-11-13T00:09:00.000-08:002008-11-13T00:09:00.000-08:00I think we've been drinking the same tea. That bi...I think we've been drinking the same tea. That bitter aftertaste is in my mouth too.<BR/>I haven't been posting but I wanted to let you know that I have been faithfully reading. I miss you and DH!Kevin, Leah & Bodhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08886344147402124685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-68957133389533641402008-11-12T19:24:00.000-08:002008-11-12T19:24:00.000-08:00Not sure what you're getting at here. Are you sayi...Not sure what you're getting at here. Are you saying that it is bad that people who have some means adopt or that you are struggling with the financial aspects of adoption?<BR/><BR/>Having a child was for me a craving to love, raise and nurture a person from birth until adulthood. Yet choosing to wait until after I got married (39) meant that I had more time to become established in my career and my life so that I had for financial stability. Does this make my desire to be a parent a better or worse thing? Truthfully I don't think it has anything to do with it, however, our daughter's firstmother did want financial stability and security (as much as one can have these days) as one of the hopes for Zara. Let me be clear...just one of the hopes, but certainly not the majority or the overarching hope.<BR/><BR/>Domestic adoption is tough because of the waiting to be picked. International does away with that being picked, but you miss out on the fun of tiny babyhood. I was thrilled to be there was Z was born. But it is true that the right birthparents find you and when they do, the pain and longing diminish so much.<BR/><BR/>Good luck, my friend!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-77209078597844146722008-11-12T04:36:00.000-08:002008-11-12T04:36:00.000-08:00It's pretty unbelievable that it's a "business". ...It's pretty unbelievable that it's a "business". It seems like if the child's best interests were truly a priority everything wouldn't be so expensive. On the other hand, adopting from the foster care system is free (no agency fees) because those kids are considered unadoptable. Sad.Guera!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12616928404421960462noreply@blogger.com