tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post226177750814100648..comments2023-04-13T02:27:19.699-07:00Comments on A Woman My Age: Is being a Buddhist a deal breaker?Deathstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03925549983959400448noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-46676756636309594292008-02-29T13:59:00.000-08:002008-02-29T13:59:00.000-08:00I do think about those introduction letters -- I, ...I do think about those introduction letters -- <BR/><BR/><BR/>I, a former Catholic, can relate the hypocrisy you mentioned -- I have a GLBT family and I've seen my family members struggle with the faith they were raised in -- and then hear the vitriol directed at them...not always of course, there are wonderful open-minded people of every faith...but so often I do see the vocal few with their closed minds.<BR/><BR/>I have to believe that it isn't a dealbreaker, and that perhaps as someone mentioned it's a draw -- that the very right door will open and there the person will be with your child meant for your family.<BR/><BR/>I really believe that.<BR/><BR/>PamWordgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06580973104447557466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-11273219538775873552008-02-27T12:14:00.000-08:002008-02-27T12:14:00.000-08:00OH my gosh..."But what repulsed and disappointed m...OH my gosh...<BR/><BR/>"But what repulsed and disappointed me in the end was the astounding hypocrisy of so called believers"<BR/><BR/>What you said.. here I so relate to. I too used to go to church and actually met my DH at a Christian church. I think I still believe in God but I was so turned off by the people. Not one so called friend I met at church stood by me through my IF and could support me through it. All they could do was offer me empty words and only say things like "In Gods Time" and I'll pray for you... than all disappeared out of my life when I stopped going to church and I started losing my way and faith because of my IF. It was so disappointing and still turned off by it. <BR/><BR/>I'm sorry that you feel like Christianity is a factor in being picked. I just don't think it should be that way and people should look at the heart and the character of the person. I agree with Lori, just be true to yourself and the right match will come. Good luck.One Viewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16092873478760754270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-33697254432611095042008-02-27T09:26:00.000-08:002008-02-27T09:26:00.000-08:00On a . com there is a section for Pagan/Earth-base...On a . com there is a section for Pagan/Earth-based posts. Currently there is a thread with someone who was picked by an expectant mom beCAUSE she is Buddhist.<BR/><BR/>And another expectant mom who wants to know how to find a pagan family to adopt her baby. (No solicitation is allowed there, and I couldn't get a feel for how legit the situation was).<BR/><BR/>My point is that you are not looking for just ANY match -- you are looking for the right match. Just as you did when you chose your husband as the one to marry. He wasn't just a guy, he was THE guy.<BR/><BR/>FWIW, I think you are going about this in exactly the right way, by being true to yourself and true to your word.<BR/><BR/>Unsolicited assvice: you might want to address these misperceptions about Budddhism in your profile, if you haven't already.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-60674469932923761052008-02-27T07:57:00.000-08:002008-02-27T07:57:00.000-08:00Loved the irony of the "Christian" woman who obvio...Loved the irony of the "Christian" woman who obviously fell off the wagon but is holding others to a higher standard. Such a crazy world we live in...Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-74704161185661720792008-02-26T19:26:00.000-08:002008-02-26T19:26:00.000-08:00I don't know if you know this about me, but I was ...I don't know if you know this about me, but I was baptized Presbyterian and went to a Presby church until age 7 when I went to live with my mother. Afterwards we went to no church or Religious Scientist Church (not to be confused with Christian Science). Then in my teens I became an atheist. In college I became agnostic and then Catholic. <BR/><BR/>I'm a converted Catholic but what I commonly call myself is a Cafeteria Catholic. My belief along my journey has been that you take what you need from religion to make yourself a better person. But a faith unexamined (ie blind faith) is worse than no faith at all.<BR/><BR/>My husband is an atheist (though I think he's more of a spiritual agnostic). We decided that since I was the only one of the two of us with a true faith, I would be responsible for Zara's exposure to the Church. <BR/><BR/>As a rational Catholic, I hope to provide a foundation in faith that will allow her to begin her own religious journey. Her baptism was a symbol of the beginning of her journey.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I'm rambling. But unless you are using a religious adoption agency (we didn't), I don't think your being Buddhist will make one iota of difference to the right expectant mother. People look for all sorts of different qualities. The right child will find you.Teendochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09351506731552454057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-1368029678830136792008-02-26T14:51:00.000-08:002008-02-26T14:51:00.000-08:00It's a tough question here in the US. Christianity...It's a tough question here in the US. Christianity is more like a brand name for many people as opposed to a deeply held spiritual conviction--forget practice or path. You can't get elected without claiming Christianity as part of your identity (at least at most levels of government and in most parts of the country). Yet Americans are attending church less and less frequently and are less and less inclined to identify with a particular church/denomination.<BR/><BR/>At the same time, there are also many folks who have a positive view of Buddhism, even if they don't understand it very well. Even here in the boondocks. It seems like you have many things going for you, and that your faith/practice shouldn't be too huge a road block.Shinejilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03353174053245279899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-14318437765313403432008-02-26T14:41:00.000-08:002008-02-26T14:41:00.000-08:00I'm sorry the inquiry went no further than your re...I'm sorry the inquiry went no further than your religion. That's sad because you seem to be a very spiritual, kind, loving, and morally aware individual. Your faith seems to be an intrinsic part of you and I think that is very rare. If I were looking for a woman of faith to raise my child, you'd be the obvious choice to me.<BR/><BR/>I've perused adoption sites before, looking at the couples' profiles, and I did notice that the majority of them mention their Christian faith and I've always wondered about that. Why are Christians so appealing as adoptive parents? I hope some readers give you insight, because it's something I'm curious about. <BR/><BR/>Is it as simple as most women who give up a child for adoption are Christian or is it something more than that?tobacco brunettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17332174946878566188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-79805924157750249662008-02-26T13:51:00.000-08:002008-02-26T13:51:00.000-08:00Some of the reasons you stated are why I call myse...Some of the reasons you stated are why I call myself a "recovering" Catholic. I too have tried several places of worship and I find the best place is somewhere I am alone and can think in peace, smell flowers, or watch the deer in my yard. <BR/><BR/>Why is it that the people that profess to be the holiest are usually the snarkiest and nasty?OHNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03856294075428012923noreply@blogger.com