tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post1093115342621988636..comments2023-04-13T02:27:19.699-07:00Comments on A Woman My Age: Yay! Ouch!Deathstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03925549983959400448noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-66511445713887051932009-02-25T07:49:00.000-08:002009-02-25T07:49:00.000-08:00I felt the sucker punch all the way down here in C...I felt the sucker punch all the way down here in California. As others have said, you've captured perfectly the conflicting sensations and emotions that come with being on the outside looking in...and trying not to color your friend's experience with your own.Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-13111741624656357442009-02-25T05:26:00.000-08:002009-02-25T05:26:00.000-08:00Here from ICLW. I am sorry that you have to deal ...Here from ICLW. I am sorry that you have to deal with this. I always try and walk that fine line with my friends who are having difficult time getting pregnant (she is starting IVF) and my friend who lost a baby a few months ago.<BR/><BR/>All the best.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09804206770898071326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-90463913014939429862009-02-24T17:19:00.000-08:002009-02-24T17:19:00.000-08:00I love your last comment. What a great perspectiv...I love your last comment. What a great perspective!Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00671922064140460790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-56333327376429723572009-02-24T17:00:00.000-08:002009-02-24T17:00:00.000-08:00I know exactly how you feel. I have gone through t...I know exactly how you feel. I have gone through this with my little sis and it has been very hard. You definitely are not alone.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03661220372372737455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-73697278224469886562009-02-24T14:03:00.000-08:002009-02-24T14:03:00.000-08:00I too have shared the journey with my best friend ...I too have shared the journey with my best friend (although hers is secondary IF). When they committed to international adoption I was so hurt...we had be talking about it long before they had and if felt like we weren't moving anywhere and here they were going to end up with two before we had one. It hurt, to be honest. But time has gone by and it is such a joy to continue to share in each other's journeys. Even though they are now different.<BR/><BR/>Good luck!<BR/><BR/>ICLW #39Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03929532974271442167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-17897598764967558362009-02-24T07:06:00.000-08:002009-02-24T07:06:00.000-08:00It does hurt SO much sometimes. It sounds like yo...It does hurt SO much sometimes. It sounds like you were a great and supportive friend, despite the fact that you were crying inside. <BR/><BR/>Good luck.Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02378761861553074475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-13997637759383930302009-02-23T17:32:00.000-08:002009-02-23T17:32:00.000-08:00I love the title of your post, fits perfectly. A r...I love the title of your post, fits perfectly. A raw and honest look with a twist at times--"thanks universe for checking my ego". Beautifully written. Sending hugs to you and your friend. <BR/><BR/>ICLWcaitsmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12526920268165723942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-48421515207307249512009-02-23T10:07:00.000-08:002009-02-23T10:07:00.000-08:00I am so sorry you aren't able to experience this w...I am so sorry you aren't able to experience this with her. You have captured the conflicting emotions we all feel in that situation so eloquently.<BR/><BR/>~ICLWKristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-13227542790752792462009-02-23T09:43:00.000-08:002009-02-23T09:43:00.000-08:00I'm sorry this hurt you. But since you to are such...I'm sorry this hurt you. But since you to are such great friends, maybe there's another way for you to connect with her during this pregnancy? I wish you peace.<BR/>*ICLW*Beautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425541240465474148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-34247130256425313032009-02-23T08:13:00.000-08:002009-02-23T08:13:00.000-08:00Beautiful post, but your title really summarizes i...Beautiful post, but your title really summarizes it all in a nutshell -- happy for her, sad for yourself. Believe me, you're not alone in feeling that way!loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-57647965701259434942009-02-23T07:53:00.000-08:002009-02-23T07:53:00.000-08:00thankyou for writing that post...it was beautiful,...thankyou for writing that post...it was beautiful, meaningful and exactly how I am feeling...my best friend is expecting in May....ahhh the one thing we just don't have in comman..after 20 years of doing everything together....<BR/>hard but true....we are given a different path....<BR/>oh and no stretch marks isn't a bad thing.....lol<BR/>great to meet you through ICLW...<BR/><BR/>m :)StylinMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02235521717778992493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-18099960040976889632009-02-23T07:24:00.000-08:002009-02-23T07:24:00.000-08:00I always feel such resonance when I come here Deat...I always feel such resonance when I come here Deathstar. I feel very grateful to you in the blogosphere, in this world. <BR/><BR/>I find that the hardest thing for me has been to open my heart to my friends (or my brother) in their joy. <BR/><BR/>One of the things I love most about your blog is your honesty with yourself and your readers. You acknowledge and process and takes us with you, and then you stand up straight and put your feet solidly on the path again.<BR/><BR/>You inspire me. You really do.<BR/><BR/>Love to you Deathstar -- from our snow to your rain,<BR/><BR/>XO<BR/><BR/>PamWordgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06580973104447557466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-61339408366496129372009-02-22T23:35:00.000-08:002009-02-22T23:35:00.000-08:00"And what I have yearned for for so long TO KNOW, ..."And what I have yearned for for so long TO KNOW, is this special thing that I have traded chunks of my joyful life to experience. It cost me the woman I used to be. My journey apparently is to travel another path. Not what I prayed for, but something else."<BR/><BR/>this captures so very much. this journey of ours is the greatest teacher, no?lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-40522224900050393102009-02-22T20:28:00.000-08:002009-02-22T20:28:00.000-08:00Ugh, I always say that IF is a lot like musical ch...Ugh, I always say that IF is a lot like musical chairs, where you're always the one left standing. Hang in there, and remember that it's normal to feel jealous and happy for your friend at the same time!! Nice to meet you through ICLW...princessoftideshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18359303260898514314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-72075947410335388822009-02-22T19:18:00.000-08:002009-02-22T19:18:00.000-08:00This is a beautiful post, Deathstar. You just capt...This is a beautiful post, Deathstar. You just capture so perfectly the swirl of emotion that can pull us in so many directions at once. Wishing you growth that easily brings you peace and joy.annacyclopediahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10461037288546901657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5064998953162723258.post-62245664159294101422009-02-22T18:39:00.000-08:002009-02-22T18:39:00.000-08:00My oldest friend is 10 weeks pregnant. And I've a...My oldest friend is 10 weeks pregnant. And I've already been nursery furniture shopping with her. It does hurt. But I'm making a very genuine (though not always successful) attempt not to wince in front of her.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07923049494756911105noreply@blogger.com